by Ilene L.
Literacy describes the condition of a personís ability to know, experience,
understand, process and use for growth the emotions which
as s/he experiences daily living. It means learning how to be in charge of
directing and processing feelings, rather than allowing feelings to be in charge
of us (whether by overwhelming our lives, or by spending our energy fending them
off). It also signifies
learning to accept emotions as friends (instead of enemies), and making use of
the information emotions give us to create daily change and harmony.
Learning emotional literacy involves these assumptions:
We visualize the earth as a giant school wherein the primary
lessons are love and faith. The name of our teacher would be experience; and
each experience presents an opportunity for personal growth/transformation.
An emotional reaction is involved in each experience.
Emotions operate as signals, calling our attention to the areas
needing examination and growth.
Emotions are a form of energy. Each emotion is a slightly
different form and, therefore, needs to be understood and processed
Because emotions are energy, they need to be moved. The human
system is a channel for the energy of emotion, much like a river bed acts as a
channel for water.
To be complete with any emotion, a person must (a) notice it;
(b) allow him/herself to feel it; (c) identify the lesson taught by the
emotion; and (d) develop and follow a new course of action (the result of
change created by the decision to learn the lesson).
Because our culture has evolved into its present state, the mental process and
activity has come to be valued above the emotional. In reality, both are equal
partners. Therefore, emotional literacy involves restoring emotions to their
rightful place in our minds, hearts, and daily lives; and also having them
become an acceptable and valued part of life. To achieve this involves going all
the way in the opposite direction -- valuing emotions and feelings over thoughts
and ideas. Once begun, this process will inevitably lead to the natural
re-balancing of placing the mental and the emotional on equal footing within
each of us.
Personal empowerment is involved in becoming emotionally literate
-- emotions connect us to ourselves and thus to our true inner power. Our
greatest power lies in our ability to feel.
Becoming emotionally literate also underlies the development of
intuition. Emotional literacy is attainable, and an emotionally literate child
requires an emotionally literate parent.
Literacy Steps at Feel.org
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© Ilene L.
Dillon, MSW, reprinted from the
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